Letting Go

“You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway.”
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

I remember the moment when I realized I wasn’t in control of my kids actions. It may not seem dramatic, but I remember that I was angry distraught, because my son, Eric, was refusing to clean his room. I knew that the idea of a tidy room wasn’t really a direct reflection on my mothering abilities,,,sort of …But it seemed, just a little bit of order couldn’t hurt. Surely I could bribe negotiate with him this for this one small thing.  But it wasnt’t be.  I knew at that moment that the battle wasn’t worth it… that it was me who had to change.  I had to let it go.

Now, my “kids” are adults and I can keep a room as tidy, or untidy, as I want,, and can only blame my husband, myself.

I have to say, I still struggle with dealing with those things that I cant “fix”.   As a nurse I spend a good part of the day, working to make things better for people. But this isn’t always possible and learning to accept what I can’t fix or control is hard.

Generally speaking, I have control over what I choose.

How to take care of myselfIMG_0378
What to do for my family and friends
What to do for my career
How to use my time


One thing being a Nurse Coach has taught me is that we, not others,IMG_1294-2know what might work for us. Every time I think I know the best strategy for another person, they surprise me by finding their own way.I love my family.… more than anything in the world….And my Grandchildren… wow… I never knew what that would mean… how much I would love them…… So… letting them do what they choose… knowing that it is their manual to follow, not mine, can be hard. I may influence them, I can voice an opinion (sometimes) but I cant “make” them do what I know is right, their decision.




I  have to take a moment to acknowledge the sadness for another thing that, unfortunately, we can’t control. The recent loss of 49 innocent lives wth 53 wounded in Orlando. Hopefully there are some things, as a community/country, that we can do to prevent these terrible incidents in the future.

But still, I am grateful for what I have and pray for healing for those who have been affected by this tragedy.


  • Christine Agel

    Good lesson to learn.

    June 20, 2016

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    • Ann

      And one that needs constant reminders (for myself anyway)

      June 20, 2016

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